Relationships in a lesbian couple. - DESENMASCARANDO LAS FALSAS DOCTRINAS

The fact that the homosexuality of both men and women is a biological fact in serious scientific circles has not been disputed for a long time. The share of people with same-sex orientation, according to statistical estimates, is on average from 1% to 2%. At the same time, this ratio does not change historically. At the same time, the percentages of homo - and bisexual men and women differ significantly. Thus, on average, 1.5% of men who identify themselves as homosexuals account for about 0.7% of those who identify themselves as bisexuals. Among women, the proportion is reversed: 0.7% of those who consider themselves homosexual account for 1.5% of bisexual women.
This difference already shows that the risk of infidelity in lesbian relationships is higher than in gay men. It is clear that it is higher for women who are only capable of same-sex orientation. It should also be taken into account that in addition to real (genetically predetermined) homosexuals, there are a lot of young people who also try such relationships for the sake of new experience, after unsuccessful relationships with representatives of the other sex or out of a desire to oppose themselves to society. It should be noted that in this case, too, the proportion of women is greater than that of men. This is not surprising, because In conservative societies, male homosexuality is more condemned than female homosexuality.
All this suggests that a natural lesbian has a high chance of being abandoned by her partner. After all, it may turn out that her partner is bisexual and now she needs a man more, or that it was just an experiment and she no longer likes him. Unlike heterosexual relationships and even same-sex male relationships, sexual bonding in lesbian couples is usually preceded by the establishment of a strong emotional connection. Emotions, the need for attention, communication are much more important for women than for men. Penetration into the psychological spheres of each other in women, as a rule, is much deeper. Accordingly, breaking such ties is very painful. This is reinforced by the understanding of the difficulty of finding a new partner — such people are a hundred times less common than those who prefer the opposite sex, and in a conservative society they also hide their sexual orientation. Realizing this, partners often try to maintain an already clearly degraded relationship, which is more likely to hurt them both than bring satisfaction.
Another psychological feature of lesbian relationships is the intolerance of emotional infidelity of the partner, when, while maintaining sexual relations at the same level, the emotions and attention of one of the partners is intensively directed to the other person. Of course, this will negatively affect any relationship, but it is for a female couple that such an emotional distraction is most painful and disastrous, because it is the established emotional connection, no less than sexual attraction, that has caused the formation of such a couple. In this regard, I would like to warn girls, young women who are looking for same-sex relationships only for the sake of satisfying curiosity or out of a desire to demonstrate their looseness to others, from rash steps. What is only a whim or a spectacular act for one woman, for another woman — a chance for a deep and long-term relationship, which she has been waiting for a long time.To be deceived in these expectations is very painful. and sometimes it is not safe for her frivolous partner. We do not try to exaggerate the colors, but violent quarrels, even with violence, in lesbian couples, unfortunately, are not uncommon.The feelings of any person should be treated with great responsibility, and in such cases — even more so.
Psychological therapy (help) for lesbian couples is not fundamentally different from situations with traditional unions. Despite sexual orientation, this is primarily a relationship between people. But there are also features that a professional psychologist should know and take into account. Such specialists are among our colleagues and they are always ready to help those who need it.